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Seedy or special? We look into the growing phenomenon of open relationships
Many men went into a bit of frenzy when Angelina Jolie told a German magazine that, "I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship."
The allure of open relationships - Sex and Dating - MSN Him - MSN UK
Seeded on Fri Aug 26, 2011 8:26 AM EDT
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so, how will the American right feel abut open relationships I wonder?
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#1 - Fri Aug 26, 2011 8:27 AM EDThahahahaha. I bet its the first 2 for 1 deal you have ever turned down flat!!!!!!!
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I am waiting for the day when you can get a chap free with the shopping. hahahahahaha
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so, how will the American right feel abut open relationships I wonder?
A little while back, there was this document that was put together by a number of groups called the Manhattan Declaration. It's mostly a footnote at this point, something that got a little media attention but that I don't think matters much save to the people who were already in agreement with it.
It was a statement in defense of traditional marriage, etc. While I found the majority of the document to be objectionable, though sincere, one thing I thought was particularly forward thinking of the authors was that they mentioned "polyamory" as one thing they opposed, in recognition to the growing phenomenon.
So, I think it's safe to say that they are against it.
I long for the day when people stop caring what consenting adults do with their naughty bits.
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The American right call the partners of their open marriage sister wives.
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My problem with "open relationships" is that it is the man who usually ends up benefiting from this arrangement and not the woman.
By and large, women tend to be more devoted by nature and get pleasure from forming emotional bonds. This takes longer than "hooking up" so the score sheet between the man and woman in the relationship often quickly becomes skewed.
And since new toys are always more alluring than old ones, the man inevitably begins spending more time on the hunt than in the home.
Finally...I don't care how much you enjoy sex...STDs are not fun. And neither is being tested for them.
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#2 - Fri Aug 26, 2011 2:04 PM EDTMy problem with "open relationships" is that it is the man who usually ends up benefiting from this arrangement and not the woman.
I've known a number of people in multiple-partner relationships that don't match this preconception. In fact, I think I've known more women with multiple partners than men with multiple partners, especially on any long term basis.
But where I agree with you is that an open relationship is not license to ignore your existing partner(s) or to just go "chasing strange".
Finally...I don't care how much you enjoy sex...STDs are not fun. And neither is being tested for them.
The tests are not fun, but they are much better than having to tell someone (or more than one someones) that you can't have sex and they should go get checked out too.
One extra reason why you should always play safely.
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I have an open relationship, with my son's mother. I haven't slept with anyone else in about 2 years, and most of those times, my son's mother joined us. Personally, I don't really have time for any of that stuff any more, but I don't knock anyone who lives in this type of relationship.
But where I agree with you is that an open relationship is not license to ignore your existing partner(s) or to just go "chasing strange".
Great comment. If I did get to where I was ignoring her, it wouldn't be an open relationship very much longer. I have never had to go chasing anywhere, but I do flirt pretty much constantly. My gf knows I love her and she knows I am committed to her, so it isn't a problem. I actually feel as if it helps our relationship. We are open in all areas, and the openness spills over into communication and other areas, where it is a positive. I guess everyone is different.
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The key to an open relationship is the ability to take one another for granted. That may sound crazy but when you think about it, you have to have a relationship where the primary mates love one another and KNOW that they love each other and aren't going to dump them and move on. It is a security issue that most relationships never really have whether monogamous or not.
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Sorry I'm late to the party JO, busy day Lov. I'm am old school I guess, and treat the other in a relationship the way I want to be treated, but if that trust is broken, then the other should have the same privileges, if the relationship is to survive, is how they handle the infidelity, and can put it behind them, or cut their losses, and just move on.
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The key to an open relationship is the ability to take one another for granted.
A friend of mine refers to her husband as her "foundation relationship". It's the same principle as you're saying, I think, but it's a much less loaded phrasing.
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I would think the partners would have to be more unassuming than anything else. I don't think open relationships are necessarily a bad thing at all if it works as I do believe many people are not suited to be with just one person at a time. In the 60's open relationships were experimented and accepted by many couples. Whether or not this has phased out in the US is something I have no updated knowledge to impart. I would not be good in an open relationship as this does not concern me but I certainly wouldn't discount it for others.
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